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The Return to International Travel

It was Christmas 2019 and I was sitting by the tree opening a small box sent by my sister. Inside was a beautiful necklace with an airplane dangling from it. She knows my heart. It has always been travel, particularly travel abroad.  She knew that after becoming a mom later in life, I was itching to travel again and that 2020 was going to be the year that would happen.

I don’t need to tell you what happened in 2020.

Fast forward to November 2023.  That tiny plane hanging from neck was not forgotten. Thanksgiving week became the target date and this time it was not going to be missed.

The destination: Mexico City, Mexico.

I’ve been to Northern Mexico many times – mostly to Monterrey for work trips. I have also spent time as a teenager in Guaymas, Sonora, where my Mexican brother is from. But I had always wanted to see Mexico City – finally it happened!

This was the first trip abroad for our son. He was on the cusp of 9 years old and a trip abroad was long overdue. While he had been on planes with me, he had not yet exercised his passport. Most people who go to Mexico for vacation hit the beach, but not our family! I thought carefully about his first trip abroad and decided we were going deep into the largest city in Mexico and North America instead of “la playa!”

Traveling with a child is a completely different experience than going solo. Despite my lists of possible itineraries and endless things to see, a child of any age requires flexibility.  The only activity I pre-purchased tickets for was the Frida Kahlo house. Everything else was played by ear.

How did it go?  Let’s just say my heart was overflowing!  Watching your child experience another country makes it a million times more special. Our son was such a great reminder in going with the flow, resilience, and courage.  For his first trip abroad, I put aside my desire to see a slew of museums (and Mexico City has PLENTY!) to instead focus on seeing more history, meeting more kids (think SOCCER here, or as they say in Mexico – futbol), using Spanish, and going with the flow.

Here are some pictures and moments that summarize our sojourn:

H on the plane. He brought a “friend” with him to experience Mexico.  We leave devices behind as much as possible and I love that he spent a lot of time simply looking around the plane and out the window.


Our first day was spent at the Frida Kahlo house, Casa Azul.  While H didn’t quite get what was so important about being there, he did love people watching and the vendors outside the building, lol. I was in my glory; Frida is a huge lesson in courage and this trip reminded me of how necessary courage is in life. By the time I got to the room with her art supplies and then her bed, I was quietly sobbing. Who else has had this reaction?


Our kid loves soccer. The universe hooked us up by having a youth soccer program directly across the street from our apartment. (By the way, we did a house swap – so the apartment was free! We highly recommend swapping!) H doesn’t speak Spanish (yet!) but he jumped right in. He observed and then quickly was yelling “Aqui, Aqui!” when he wanted the ball passed to him. Flexibility was key in our travels – once we knew there was a two hour soccer experience literally across the street, we pivoted and made sure he had that experience.


Our family’s love of soccer led us to the Estadio Azteca tour – we went into the  locker room, the press area, and even walked down to the field and sat in the team’s seats.  The guy in the middle of the pic was the tour guide – he wore jeans and an everyday t-shirt. No uniform. No nametag. No mic. Just a booming voice and enthusiasm to follow his lead. We had a blast!

Our kiddo loves to cook and I literally read cookbooks for fun – so food was a big part of our experience. He enjoyed trying different mole sauces and despite eating a burger here and there, he came home and asked if we could go to our local Mexican tienda for tortillas. He made tortilla “sandwiches” with onions, cheese, cilantro, and salsa for days after we returned!

At one restaurant outside Mexico City, he opted for a burger but then made tortillas for us and our Uber driver, Manuel!


Of course, we couldn’t leave Mexico City without trying their famous churros! Immersing in Spanish was a big lesson for our son – on our 6th day – without any instruction, he turned to me in a restaurant and said “Quieres mas sal, mama?” (Do you want more salt, mom?) I almost fell off my chair. The language acquisition was happening – and it reminded us that we need to return for a longer period while he is young – for him to quickly progress.


But first we needed to visit the National Museum of Anthropology – which our kiddo loved more than I could have imagined!


Visiting the ruins at Teotihuacán was another major highlight. Seeing this history in person is key to understanding civilizations and culture.  And what a workout those stairs were!

Because we were going with the flow, we actually ended up at the large public square, The Plaza de la Constitución, also known as El Zocolo, during our final days. We took a bus tour around the city and then ended the day with a visit to the local dentist for a cleaning.  This is a pretty standard practice for us – there are great dentists abroad and it is so much less money than in the US!

I got my much needed travel hit, my kiddo experienced his first country outside the US, and my sweet husband rolled with it all. It was a much more enjoyable Thanksgiving than the ubiquitous turkey at home, at least in our eyes.

And perhaps most of all, it was my personal way to tell that damn pandemic that we will keep traveling, that it will never stop us again. It was cathartic, that was for sure!

 

 

Reframing the International Education Interview

Who doesn’t want to work in study abroad?! Even through a global pandemic, the job boards are hopping and people are emailing me daily to tell me about their successes in the job search and their “oh so close’ encounters with a job offer.

I’ve been asking around and the big issue for folks these days seems to be the interview(s)! They’re getting LOTS of them apparently, but so are others and that makes the interviewing that much more stressful.

When our nerves get involved, it makes it even more difficult to shine during an interview.

We KNOW the work we can do.

We KNOW the value we bring.

We KNOW our commitment to students, faculty, global communities, cultures.

But we can’t seem to get IN the door and it is frustrating. This journey of interviewing endlessly can create a downward spiral in our motivation and belief in ourselves.

Let’s take a moment to be kind to ourselves.  Breathe. Take a day off from the job search and do something you fully enjoy (that is pandemic safe, of course!). Get it out of your system so that when you return to the research, the zoom prepping, and the big interview day (again!), you will feel refreshed.

But before zoom consumes several hours of your life again, let’s talk about the POWER of reframing.

Reframing an interview allows us to reimagine how things can unfold, which really decreases the stress level.

When I coach people about interviewing, one of the first things we talk about is what an interview really is.  Typically those interviewing will comment on it being a skill assessment or even a competition.  But when we reframe what an interview actually IS…it really is very simple.

It is a conversation.

About a topic you and the people across the table/screen deeply care about.

Pause here and REALLY think about that.  A conversation about a topic you all care about.

Wow, that makes it a lot more managable, doesn’t it?  (This is usually the response from people I coach!)

Imagine that you’re at a friend’s house for a dinner party.  You get seated next to someone you don’t know. While making small talk, the conversation turns to careers. You learn that your seat-mate is a study abroad risk assessment specialist!  WOW!  You ask lots of questions – as they do – and you have a great conversation about the field you both love.  You leave that dinner party with a new contact and a smile, knowing you spent part of your evening talking about a topic you love with someone who loves it too.

FUN, right?

Well, let’s reframe the interview.  You arrive at a computer screen (or a phone call, in person, etc) to meet with people who work in your desired field! They ask you questions and you answer them authentically. You get to ask them some questions, too. You leave with new contacts and (hopefully) a smile for the experience, as you spent part of your day (or evening) talking about a topic you love with people who love it too.

I realize that leaving a dinner party vs leaving an interview have two different potential outcomes, of course.  However, when we reframe an interview to feel like a conversation we have regularly with others in the field (classmates, professors, colleagues of past and present, family, friends, etc) – it is less overwhelming and dare I say – ENJOYABLE?

If you’re out there interviewing and feeling like you’ll never be the ONE invited to join an organization, I would encourage you to reframe your interview.

Sometimes interviews become:

  • A way to expand your network for the future: Remember that people leave organizations and often end up on hiring committees in other organizations. You never know where your paths will cross again, so even if you don’t get THIS job you may have inadvertantly done a preliminary interview for a future job!
  • Disappointment to sudden joy:  Occasionally, you will be 2nd choice and suddenly you get a phone call that the person who accepted the position had to back out. Now you’re their first choice! (It happens!)
  • A path to another job you didn’t expect: This week alone, someone I coach was interviewed for a job and didn’t get selected because he was more appropriate for another job in the org. They instead asked him to interview for that job and made an introduction to the hiring manager.
  • A confidence BUILDER:  When you hear more questions and get to practice many answers along the way, you actually are more prepared than you realize. (See how reframing works!)
  • An excuse to get feedback from the pros:  Not getting the job opens the door to ask an important question. You can easily frame it this way: “In an effort to grow and improve, I’m seeking your feedback about my interview. I value your time and wisdom.”

Reframing is a tool that can really help you in your international education job search!  It also is a tool that helps in every day life – so start exercising your reframing muscle and see where it leads.

If you’d like more free advice on the international job search, download this PDF full of tips!

 

 

 

The Online International Education Career Academy (IECA) is HERE!

After 8 long months of work to prepare the re-launch of the International Education Career Academy – we are officially open for registration.

The IECA is an online program for those seeking to launch or expand their international education career.  Having helped over 200 people land jobs in int’l ed, I have been able to distill the tips and tricks of the int’l ed job application journey into 5 distinct modules:

  • Letting go
  • Resume Writing – The one that gets you the interview
  • Cover Letters – The one that shows your professional heart
  • Interviewing for Int’l Ed
  • Compensation Negotiation that earns you an expansive lifetime income

There is also an early bird rate if you enroll before March 23rd at 8 pm eastern.

And if you pay in full, there is a fabulous POWER BONUS – click below to learn about it!

Despite COVID-19, I believe in our global community. And I deeply believe that international education is a path to peace. So, I’m sharing this beautiful and productive program for anyone seeking a career in international education. You can view the curriculum, read testimonials and REGISTER for the IECA here.

(Please know the rate includes a COVID-19 discount and there is payment plan option.)

Feel free to email me at missy@melibeeglobal.com with any questions!

Wishing you all good health,

Missy

International Education Week Ideas for 2019

The fall semester is now underway for institutions across the U.S. and before you know it November will be here, and along with it, the Bureau of Educational and Cultural Affairs’ International Education Week (IEW)! November becomes a great excuse to cheerlead the beauty of sojourning and appreciating cultures. Here are some ideas to easily inspire an awareness and appreciation for global travel and cross-cultural understanding:

1. Puzzle it out:  I lose sleep imagining how few people in the US can actually identify major countries across the globe. One easy way to encourage folks to think about where countries reside on a map is to have a table in a well trafficked place (e.g. student union, office lobby, cafeteria, etc.) with a KID’s version of a global puzzle.  Have folks stop by and ask them do the puzzle and then give them an incentive to learn more about the world once they solve it. Inevitably they’re either going to feel very proud of how quickly they completed the puzzle OR have a heightened awareness of how little they know about the world map! You can offer puzzles by region of the world – which align nicely with “Where do you want to study abroad?” or “Where are you from?” too.  Do what works for YOUR community – for example, if you’re an office that specializes in relocating people to China, use a puzzle of the Chinese provinces.

2. Food is Culture:  Partner with your community’s dining services to highlight an ingredient from around the world. Have a poster or flyer describing the origin of the ingredient to provide more detailed information about how that ingredient migrated regionally or globally.  For example, did you know that okra originated in Southern Ethiopia? Most people think it is from the US South!  (If you want to read more about that myth, read MIchael Twitty’s book – The Cooking Gene).                                                                                                         

I picked this book because it is the most practical tool for intercultural dialogue that I have read in a decade!

3. Have a common IEW book read:  An easy way to gather people of diverse perspectives together is around a common read. This year, I highly recommend a new book by Tayo Rockson called Use Your Difference to Make a Difference: How To Connect and Communicate in a Cross-Cultural World. I’m picking this book for two reasons – the first is that unlike many books on the topic of cultural competency, this one is practical (not theory driven). It is written by a man from Nigeria, a Adult Third Culture Kid (ATCK), and under 30 years old. Basically, you can pick it up and read it, apply it, and feel deeply engaged in his methods for engaging across cultures. The second reason I selected it is because Tayo is a Melibee speaker and he’s able to visit your community to give a lecture about the important work of cross-cultural dialogue as well as offer a book signing.  You can read more about that here!

Jennifer Hamady talks about the mechanics and psychology of voice across cultures.

4. Get them talking:  Another approach to creating dialogue about cross-cultural awareness and international education is to have a keynote speaker deliver an inspiring talk – someone from outside your community who has a new perspective to share! This year, we have a few new offerings including Candace Doby’s talk on Translating Travel Skills into Leadership Skills  and Jennifer Hamady’s interactive talk/discussion on Voice Across Cultures. You can check out more options here.

5.  Art Across Cultures:  We’ve touched on using our senses to enhance our awareness of global opportunities (smell/taste through food and sound through public talks) but what about the using our sight? A visual idea is to hang an art display with paintings or images from different parts of the world. This post provides a sample of different art styles from Europe, India and Japan. You can also put a world map near each art piece and highlight the country (and city) of the art’s origin – and post flyers about study abroad or travel opportunities to each location as well as share some stats about the number of students/employees who hail from that part of the world.

IEW is a beautiful excuse to tap into our love of culture and educational travel. I’m eager to hear what other IEW ideas you have for 2019!  Be sure to share them in the comments below!